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Your Story Matters

Posted on: June 11th, 2017 by Lynika Write A Comment

 

 

Your Story Matters

Stories are bridges where we can meet, a light for those walking behind us on the path, and our legacy to the world. Your story matters.
Dr Lynika Cruz

Let This Free You…

Posted on: May 20th, 2017 by Lynika Write A Comment

Honour that.

No matter who you are, no matter how strong, there are times even the fiercest parts of you need to take rest.

Honour that.

Know that retreating to give yourself time takes courage in itself.

Any who push or scorn you for your absence are not your tribe.

Fix your oxygen mask first.

Own and champion your life my friend.

It’s called a ‘feed’ make sure you are fuelled by it instead of becoming the ‘feed’ and sacrificing your wellbeing to project an image that isn’t aligned with your current needs or truth.

It’s not a race, don’t compete, CREATE.

Sometimes what you need to create is space so you can fill again.

Take care of your amazing, unique self.

You matter.

Back Yourself 24/7

Posted on: May 17th, 2017 by Lynika Write A Comment

 

So don’t beat yourself up when you’re going through some of the less enjoyable bits…

Life is a medley.

No matter what you do there will be easier and not so easier times.

What matters is that you back yourself.

24/7 you have your human self to care for.

Treat that being with integrity and respect.

Your self care impacts the whole world for the greater good.

It makes you a whole being who by proxy gives permission and inspiration for others to do the same. 

Take care of yourself and shine on my friend

You matter.

Dr Lynika Cruz

Remember this…

Posted on: January 26th, 2017 by Lynika Write A Comment

Champion yourself…

After my last post and the influx of responses received, I wanted to speak a little more to the power of owning yourselves…
 
the power of not being beholden to other peoples projections, expectations, misconceptions or in some cases, outright bullying…
 
Remember this; it’s what you do with the words after someone has spoken them to you that counts. That’s where the true power lies.
 
You are the sole person who gets to say if they’re true and to take them into your life.
 
I’m here to tell you, it’s not true that you are unworthy of love. It’s a story, but it’s not true. It’s actually a lie.
 
And most of all, most imperative of all is loving yourself. Gosh, so much has been said on self-love that you may initially wince when you read those words.
 
I’m not a mushy kind of person. I’ve been new-aged to death like everyone else. But the truth is, REAL self-love is not some soft-coated, flowery coat you put on with affirmations in the pockets.
 
Real self love is strong, gutsy, ballsy, respectful, take-no-prisoners energy towards yourself that shows up in your life as courage, dignity, repeated-resurrection, humility, compassion, humour and down to the bones living.
 
As Hemingway said: “A man can be destroyed and still not be defeated’
 
You can get knocked down by someones words, the song was wrong, sticks and stones can hurt your bones and words CAN also hurt you!
 
BUT, massive clause here, don’t you leave it at that. No sir!
 
You get back up, smack those words off like dust and remember the truth…
 
Sure some sucker can come along and knock you off your chair for a moment but YOU remember who you are, remember that ballsy self that doesn’t hand over life and truth to someone who thinks it’s okay to knock you.
 
YOU’RE the driver of your life, kick anyone out who tries to climb up in the rig and grab the wheel. They can get back in their own truck and deal with their own speed bumps.
 
You’ve got a road you’re on and a journey to make.
 
Love the person at the wheel, they’re gonna take you places you never imagined possible, you just have to remember they’re there, and don’t let anyone get between you and that kind of love.
 
That’s one place that rightfully and completely belongs to you, one love that won’t leave you high and dry. Period.

Stand up. Stand out. Shine on…

Posted on: January 24th, 2017 by Lynika Write A Comment

Stand up, Stand out, Shine on

Use whatever energy comes your way as fuel.

“Those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them because then you destroy yourself”

You’re not what others think of you. They’re simply painting their own projection.

Step aside of their illusion and back into your own bones.

You are who you say you are. Own yourself.

This world needs your light.

You matter.

You were born to be you.

Stand up.

Stand out.

Shine on!

 

When it’s over…

Posted on: January 17th, 2017 by Lynika Write A Comment

“I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”

Live while you’re alive, right now this moment, this one and the next, these moments are your life.

Live in all your bones, don’t settle for someone else’s version of you or your life.

You came here to be you.

Live that amazing self out loud.

“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.

When it is over, I don’t want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument.

I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”

-Mary Oliver

Loss is a reminder to live w i d e and deep

Posted on: January 19th, 2016 by Lynika 2 Comments

My Brother My Hero

Sometimes life calls us to take unplanned yet vital journeys into necessary self care. Shock and bereavement from sudden, multiple losses in my family took me into one of these journeys over the past months.

Those who know me personally or through my work, know I advocate, validate and honour the need for grief, privacy and space for all. Self care is imperative, it is no different when that grief is my own. 

Most recently (a few short weeks ago) I lost one of the most beloved people in my life. He mirrored very much the heart I have for this world. We were twin like in that way. Having a birthday (both his, and mine soon) without him, highlights the great space he held in my life and I want to honour that space for a moment here.

He was a gifted singer/musician and incredibly intelligent, loving man, his songs and conversation, his great love for me and this world live limitlessly in my heart and thoughts.

I am blessed to call him my brother, he was my first hero and remains a hero. For all he endured he continued to love deeply and give to others however he could throughout his pain and illness, he was one of the most selfless people I have met.

I have always said life is here and now, this moment right here is our life. More than anything loss is a reminder to live wide and deep in each moment we have. I’ve spoken often on how each moment is also a new years eve. Again loss reminds us to claim and own ourselves, our moments, our lives.

My brother was young, the moments we had together too brief, I cherish each moment and rise with grace and dignity in honour of those who didn’t get the chance to be here long or long enough.

This moment right here, right now, this is your moment, the most precious one you have, love and own them all, stay as present as you can and relish any you get to share with another. There are no time guarantees.

Live out loud.

Live while you’re alive.

Love to you all.

The smallest kindness

Posted on: November 10th, 2014 by Lynika Write A Comment

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“There are great blessings that come from times of poverty and hardship.

Learning the value of little things, the immense happiness that comes from the smallest kindness; the precious worth of a smile, a warm meal, shelter, interaction, the feeling of being wanted, loved..

Hardship offers us the chance to truly understand the things that truly matter in this life.

When we hold still long enough to see the gifts in our adversity we drop the added shackles we’ve attached to it.

We become lighter, more compassionate and wise. Gratitude becomes our dear companion who holds us up and helps us see the edge of light in every shadow.” ~ Lynika Cruz

Letting go isn’t the end

Posted on: October 26th, 2014 by Lynika Write A Comment

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“There are things we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.” ~ Lynika

 

The less you have the more you value it…

Posted on: June 23rd, 2013 by Lynika Write A Comment

“There are great blessings that come from times of poverty and hardship.

Learning the value of little things, the immense happiness that comes from the smallest kindness; the precious worth of a smile, a warm meal, shelter, interaction, the feeling of being wanted, loved..

Hardship offers us the chance to truly understand the things that truly matter in this life.

When we hold still long enough to see the gifts in our adversity we drop the added shackles we’ve attached to it.

We become lighter, more compassionate and wise. Gratitude becomes our dear companion who holds us up and helps us see the edge of light in every shadow.”  ~Lynika

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