“I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
Live while you’re alive, right now this moment, this one and the next, these moments are your life.
Live in all your bones, don’t settle for someone else’s version of you or your life.
You came here to be you.
Live that amazing self out loud.
“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it is over, I don’t want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
Where the real light is…
Most of your hard yakka is done behind closed doors but I know you’re a champion.
Immense respect to you for showing up in your life each day for another round.
Through adversity and daily challenges, you keep at it, chiselling away, quiet and determined.
Even when you’re beat and nobody’s cheering you on or ‘liking’ your efforts aloud behind the scenes.
Remember to respect how insanely amazing and worthy you are.
I’m not blinded by showiness or public claims of grandeur… I see in the dark where the real light is; YOURS.
Respect your Bravery
There are so many things to bless in our lives, even the little things, even if all you have is yourself right now, then take heart, this is the exact opportunity for you to be the kindest, most reliable and understanding friend you have.
Believe in yourself, be kind to yourself and don’t get adversity confused with bad luck or unfairness.
It hurts sometimes yes, it’s incredibly difficult sometimes too, let’s face it, sometimes it feels too much.
But the truth is, you’re in training, you’re doing the hard work, you’re pushing for something worthwhile, adversity doesn’t skip town on paying or rewarding you for the hard slog and/or dark times.
No, sometimes we just forget to look at what it’s gifted us.
Sometimes we are so busy and caught up looking at what it took from us that we can’t see what it has left us.
I’m not saying it’s easy, it’s not. But it’s worth it.
Look in the right places and the right direction and keep going. You’re worth it and I’m right here with you, sailing my own seas and you know what, I think of you every day, out there, just like me, doing your very best.
I’m glad you’re on this planet, each one of us matters, each moment matters.
If this moment is hard for you, hold on.
It will turn, it will change, make sure you look for what it becomes.
Live out loud
Live from that place in you that knows where the light switch is, trust it.
Dare to live out loud with what drives you, and don’t ever save anything for a special occasion…
Being alive is the special occasion.
“Forget what others can’t see… Keep rising” – Lynika
Have you had someone tell you that what you have going is a nice little case of ‘Hobby’ when in fact you’re working at your craft/business with all the oomph and resource you can muster?
I’ve had a number of folk ask how to keep their faith when another or ‘others’ (sometimes those closest to them) simply don’t recognise or respect the effort and dedication they put in day in and day out as credible.
Often it’s the result of nay-sayers looking through a sole filter of monetary visibility and exchange.
In other words; if there’s not a wage-worth of cash coming in as a result of your efforts, then it can’t be taken as a business, just a ‘hobby’ and you really aren’t contributing in any grown-up, ‘realistic’ way.
Sometimes the negative feedback is a result of the ‘onlooker’ being unable to grasp the depth of work and effort you’re putting in simply because they cannot physically ‘see’ it.
With certain types of work, particularly with artists, (of all genres) the effort behind the product or performance doesn’t show up regularly or quickly in physically viewable ways.
I read a quote a number of years ago on observing the creative, it went something like this: “Trying to watch the creative at work, is like trying to view an invisible horse eat invisible hay”
You simply can’t ‘view’ the alchemy and effort that’s taking place inside the creative mind at any given time.
And if your work isn’t in the arts but never-the-less your efforts and the business you’re growing has been diced, sliced and served back to you on a judgement platter with a side serving of scoff, this inaccurate labelling affects you too.
Building a business takes blood, sweat and tears that mostly take place behind closed doors, and the results can’t be sized up accurately with anyone else’s yardstick.
Just because something isn’t measurable or hauling in thick cash bundles just yet, it doesn’t mean it’s okay for anyone else to minimise it or your efforts as some little ‘hobby.’
This sort of judgement is not only discouraging it can be disorienting. It takes enormous amounts of courage to believe in a thing that others can’t see…
It takes even greater character and fortitude to keep building and working on it, despite nay-sayers and a less than immediate return cash flow.
It’s easy to be the one pointing the finger, this much is clear.
Virginia Satir was right; “We mustn’t allow other peoples limited perceptions to define us”
You’re the one in the ring showing up round after round and no matter what comes at you in that ring, you need to also be calling to yourself from the sidelines like a coach.
Don’t allow anything or anyone that doesn’t support or grow you, to distort the truth, shake you up, or mess with your head.
Pick yourself up and remember the truth…
You’re a freaking legend and what you bring to the table is not here to ‘qualify’ by first checking the boxes in someone else’s ledger.
Against the odds of a world that has been conditioned to believe that money and proof of productivity are necessary to make a thing of value, you rose like a phoenix with your ideas, dreams and goals and showed up.
Forget what others can’t see and keep rising.
You’re a visionary. This world needs what you bring. Keep going.
Take up space, holler while you’re driving, or running in the wind; breathe all the way out, laugh loud, make sand, leaves, or carpet angels (who needs snow?).
You are meant to be here, you have a right to take up space on this planet.
Live in all your bones. We NEED you. Be proud of yourself, exactly as you are, this minute, this moment.
YOU are freaking awesome, you amazing miraculous, breathing, feeling, worthy being.
Please share this with anyone you know who is breathing… we all need moments where someone sees us and celebrates the amazing miracle we are, just as we are.
How to survive…
“Live your life in new ways…
Climb out via the other side of the bed each morning.
Don’t reach for your phone, let your soul come back all the way first.
Notice small things, kneel in the garden, watch the tiny worlds living amongst the grass.
Remember how your heart beats for you each day, take deep breaths in return.
Work in a different room or corner of your home.
If you don’t work or you work for someone else, carry a stone or scrap of paper in your pocket with something valuable written on it.
It can be a quote, a word, a wish, your name…
Remember your world is bigger than 4 walls and it calls to you.
Love the miracle of being here, alive, playing yourself for a short time on this magnificent stage.
Love your character. Write it new lines.
Remember to let it laugh, weep, dance, fall down, get up, love.
Think outside the old lines.
Don’t stay in one repeat episode.
Walk into new rooms, make new chapters.
Own your life.
Our time here is brief.
Live it wild, w i d e, open and deep.” ~ Lynika Cruz
“If there is one door in the castle you have been told not to go through, you must. Otherwise, you’ll just be rearranging furniture in rooms you’ve already been in.” ~ Anne Lamott
Pssst… Look around you…
Life is happening right this second.
This very moment right here, right now, is where you are actually ALIVE and living.
We spend so much time thinking and planning ahead that we sometimes don’t realise we have accidentally abandoned our current life and moved there.
Moved to a place that doesn’t have solid, earthy goodness filling you up and sweet, present, ecstatic joy slapping you in the face with a big, happy kiss.
Planning ahead is important but be careful not to live there.
We lose precious moments on words and half sentences like these:
Meanwhile those lost moments accumulate and turn into days, then weeks, months, years until one day you realise…
“These moments are my LIFE.”
Go outside for a moment, really. Get up, look out the window if you’re in a blizzard or heatwave, but LOOK out there, look at life, it’s happening right now around you and TO you.
The loose leaf, the sudden dot of a small bird lifting against the sky, the rustle or stillness of this very moment and your own heart beating in your chest, right now. THIS is living.
And it’s happening NOW.
Be happy in it.
Take one small moment if you will and just LOVE it.
Turn it over for a brief second and say out loud, in this moment, this very moment I’m alive and I am noticing it and feeling it.
Now breathe and breathe and breathe.
Life is brief…
Live it W I D E and DEEP… you gorgeous, magnificent, amazing miracle!
~ Lynika Cruz
“You never know just how precious life is until you see or hear of someone losing the fight for theirs. This moment right now is your life…
As you read this quote you’re holding delicate moments of your own life in your hands and spending them.
Make sure you treasure each priceless, fragile, powerful moment.
Spend them well. Every single one of them is your life.” ~ Lynika Cruz
“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this: Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere.
With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. “A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses.”
The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate – for the good and the bad.
Note: Be not mistaken. This is applicable to family as well as friends. Yes…do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they will always be your family no matter what. Just know that they are human first and though they are family to you, they may be a friend to someone else and will fit somewhere in the criteria above.
“In Prosperity Our Friends Know Us. In Adversity We Know Our friends.”
“Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them.” “If you are going to achieve excellence in big things,you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude..”
― Colin Powell