Never give in, look back or give away what you truly believe in…
If someone called your child ugly, a waste of time or hopeless, would you feel embarrassed and walk away and abandon them?
Don’t treat your brain ‘babies’ any less precious…
Don’t believe the illusion of knock backs, rejections or other peoples opinions.
They’re not a sign for you to give up on what you believe in…
It doesn’t matter what others think.
It matters that YOU believe in your dreams and you protect them, help them grow and take their place in the world.
Whenever negative feedback is sent your way, grab the energy from it and transmute it into fierce fuel for your goal.
Never give in, look back or give away what you truly believe in.
Firewood is awesome and that’s what adversity is.
Make sure you burn that sweet load into fuel.
It’s not here to be carried.
It’s yours to pyromaniac.
Remember that and fierce forward!
Dr Lynika Cruz
Live out Loud
Contrary to what most have been told, championing and believing in yourself is your birthright, and the key to successful living…
You might ask ‘what is that?’
Well let me assure you, it involves much more than just surviving this life…
It means living it with all your callings and passions pursued and relished.
Life is in the living.
This moment right here, right now? It’s not a draft; it’s the real deal. Don’t waste a minute more.
You want to saturate yourself in your life, live in all your bones with all your heart.
This means being on your own side, talking with respect to yourself, it means listening to what your ‘self’ is telling you, and caring deeply, with priority, about those wants, passions and needs.
This person that you are, the human that you came in to be, that person is at your mercy, treat them well, with dignity, respect, encouragement and belief.
Know you are worthy and start living it….
Everything else is conditioning, everything else is someone else’s agenda.
And remember, living a self-empowered life means helping others along the way, who have forgotten.
When they stumble over the self-denigration minefield, put out your hand and remind them, tell them; they are worth the push it will take them to stand back up.
Never underestimate how much this world needs you to be good to yourself so you can inspire yourself and others, toward an authentic, full life.
Self-esteem is not a dirty word.
But putting yourself down, not believing in the immensity of who you are?
That is foul play.
And you rob this world of the light you came in with… and that is the real you, not the filter others and you have placed on yourself. Clean the lens!
Be who you are and be damn proud of it.
We are all wise enough to know this isn’t about an over inflated ego… it’s about gutsy, show up for yourself honour.
Let that stuff shine.
So don’t beat yourself up when you’re going through some of the less enjoyable bits…
Life is a medley.
No matter what you do there will be easier and not so easier times.
What matters is that you back yourself.
24/7 you have your human self to care for.
Treat that being with integrity and respect.
Your self care impacts the whole world for the greater good.
It makes you a whole being who by proxy gives permission and inspiration for others to do the same.
Take care of yourself and shine on my friend
Stand up, Stand out, Shine on
Use whatever energy comes your way as fuel.
“Those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them because then you destroy yourself”
You’re not what others think of you. They’re simply painting their own projection.
Step aside of their illusion and back into your own bones.
You are who you say you are. Own yourself.
This world needs your light.
You were born to be you.
“I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
Live while you’re alive, right now this moment, this one and the next, these moments are your life.
Live in all your bones, don’t settle for someone else’s version of you or your life.
You came here to be you.
Live that amazing self out loud.
“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it is over, I don’t want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
Live out loud
Live from that place in you that knows where the light switch is, trust it.
Dare to live out loud with what drives you, and don’t ever save anything for a special occasion…
Being alive is the special occasion.
“Forget what others can’t see… Keep rising” – Lynika
Have you had someone tell you that what you have going is a nice little case of ‘Hobby’ when in fact you’re working at your craft/business with all the oomph and resource you can muster?
I’ve had a number of folk ask how to keep their faith when another or ‘others’ (sometimes those closest to them) simply don’t recognise or respect the effort and dedication they put in day in and day out as credible.
Often it’s the result of nay-sayers looking through a sole filter of monetary visibility and exchange.
In other words; if there’s not a wage-worth of cash coming in as a result of your efforts, then it can’t be taken as a business, just a ‘hobby’ and you really aren’t contributing in any grown-up, ‘realistic’ way.
Sometimes the negative feedback is a result of the ‘onlooker’ being unable to grasp the depth of work and effort you’re putting in simply because they cannot physically ‘see’ it.
With certain types of work, particularly with artists, (of all genres) the effort behind the product or performance doesn’t show up regularly or quickly in physically viewable ways.
I read a quote a number of years ago on observing the creative, it went something like this: “Trying to watch the creative at work, is like trying to view an invisible horse eat invisible hay”
You simply can’t ‘view’ the alchemy and effort that’s taking place inside the creative mind at any given time.
And if your work isn’t in the arts but never-the-less your efforts and the business you’re growing has been diced, sliced and served back to you on a judgement platter with a side serving of scoff, this inaccurate labelling affects you too.
Building a business takes blood, sweat and tears that mostly take place behind closed doors, and the results can’t be sized up accurately with anyone else’s yardstick.
Just because something isn’t measurable or hauling in thick cash bundles just yet, it doesn’t mean it’s okay for anyone else to minimise it or your efforts as some little ‘hobby.’
This sort of judgement is not only discouraging it can be disorienting. It takes enormous amounts of courage to believe in a thing that others can’t see…
It takes even greater character and fortitude to keep building and working on it, despite nay-sayers and a less than immediate return cash flow.
It’s easy to be the one pointing the finger, this much is clear.
Virginia Satir was right; “We mustn’t allow other peoples limited perceptions to define us”
You’re the one in the ring showing up round after round and no matter what comes at you in that ring, you need to also be calling to yourself from the sidelines like a coach.
Don’t allow anything or anyone that doesn’t support or grow you, to distort the truth, shake you up, or mess with your head.
Pick yourself up and remember the truth…
You’re a freaking legend and what you bring to the table is not here to ‘qualify’ by first checking the boxes in someone else’s ledger.
Against the odds of a world that has been conditioned to believe that money and proof of productivity are necessary to make a thing of value, you rose like a phoenix with your ideas, dreams and goals and showed up.
Forget what others can’t see and keep rising.
You’re a visionary. This world needs what you bring. Keep going.
We can dream and envision great things but without our consistent effort and fortitude, they remain dreams.
Your fortitude is not in vain, it’s the vehicle to success. It will take you there but you need to drive it.
Some added ‘elbow grease to success’ support quotes for your day…
“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”
“Persistence is to the character of man as carbon is to steel.”
“For changes to be of any true value, they’ve got to be lasting and consistent.”
“The secret of success is consistency of purpose.”
“I’ve learned from experience that if you work harder at it, and apply more energy and time to it, and more consistency, you get a better result. It comes from the work.”
-Louis C. K.