You’re not broken, you’re wounded and therein lies your key.
Being ‘broken’ is a sadly common phrase, too easily picked up and worn like a final statement.
The truth is you’re not broken. You’re wounded. And realising this makes for more self compassion, more recognition of the places that need healing.
And ultimately realising you’re wounded instead of broken, gives you the key to knowing what you need right now, right here, this moment and then the next.
Being wounded offers a trail instead of a dead end.
It offers hope instead of finality.
And most of all it offers validation for the things you have faced and are facing.
When something is ‘broken’ it’s no longer of use, it usually means discarding and finality.
When something is wounded, it warrants care and tending.
It invites understanding, support, hope and patience. Most importantly from yourself to yourself.
The key is in owning the wounded self, it’s in hearing what that self needs and where it needs it most.
In time the wound becomes the key that leads you out.
I see you.
Keep going.
You matter.
Forward we go,
Dr Lynika
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Playing small offers no favour to this world
Those who work hard and invest in themselves do so to stay in the world stronger and longer for the people they love, and for all those they will inspire and encourage as a result.
Playing small offers no favour to this world.
Do not quit or be guilted about self-investment.
This is your LIFE and legacy at stake and nobody has the right to throw opinionated rocks at you, nor distract you with fear-soaked ‘cotton wool’ limits.
If you’re operating from reason and integrity then you must play all out for yourself.
It’s the only way to authentically reach the platform where you can go all out for others.
The more you make of yourself the more you genuinely have to offer.
“To be successful you have to be selfish, or else you never achieve. And once you get to your highest level, then you have to be unselfish. Stay reachable. Stay in touch. Don’t isolate.”
― Michael Jordan
Great minds think alike, so rise up like Baruch, Michael and I, and countless others who have held fierce to their life, and don’t EVER allow yourself to be shamed out of creating your greatest self, your legacy.
You were born for this.
Dr Lynika Cruz
Live out Loud
Contrary to what most have been told, championing and believing in yourself is your birthright, and the key to successful living…
Successful living?
You might ask ‘what is that?’
Well let me assure you, it involves much more than just surviving this life…
It means living it with all your callings and passions pursued and relished.
Life is in the living.
This moment right here, right now? It’s not a draft; it’s the real deal. Don’t waste a minute more.
You want to saturate yourself in your life, live in all your bones with all your heart.
This means being on your own side, talking with respect to yourself, it means listening to what your ‘self’ is telling you, and caring deeply, with priority, about those wants, passions and needs.
This person that you are, the human that you came in to be, that person is at your mercy, treat them well, with dignity, respect, encouragement and belief.
Know you are worthy and start living it….
Everything else is conditioning, everything else is someone else’s agenda.
And remember, living a self-empowered life means helping others along the way, who have forgotten.
When they stumble over the self-denigration minefield, put out your hand and remind them, tell them; they are worth the push it will take them to stand back up.
Never underestimate how much this world needs you to be good to yourself so you can inspire yourself and others, toward an authentic, full life.
Self-esteem is not a dirty word.
But putting yourself down, not believing in the immensity of who you are?
That is foul play.
And you rob this world of the light you came in with… and that is the real you, not the filter others and you have placed on yourself. Clean the lens!
Be who you are and be damn proud of it.
We are all wise enough to know this isn’t about an over inflated ego… it’s about gutsy, show up for yourself honour.
Let that stuff shine.
Your Story Matters
Stories are bridges where we can meet, a light for those walking behind us on the path, and our legacy to the world. Your story matters. Dr Lynika Cruz
Honour that.
No matter who you are, no matter how strong, there are times even the fiercest parts of you need to take rest.
Know that retreating to give yourself time takes courage in itself.
Any who push or scorn you for your absence are not your tribe.
Fix your oxygen mask first.
Own and champion your life my friend.
It’s called a ‘feed’ make sure you are fuelled by it instead of becoming the ‘feed’ and sacrificing your wellbeing to project an image that isn’t aligned with your current needs or truth.
It’s not a race, don’t compete, CREATE.
Sometimes what you need to create is space so you can fill again.
Take care of your amazing, unique self.
– Dr Lynika Cruz
So don’t beat yourself up when you’re going through some of the less enjoyable bits…
Life is a medley.
No matter what you do there will be easier and not so easier times.
What matters is that you back yourself.
24/7 you have your human self to care for.
Treat that being with integrity and respect.
Your self care impacts the whole world for the greater good.
It makes you a whole being who by proxy gives permission and inspiration for others to do the same.
Take care of yourself and shine on my friend
Don’t dim your power for anyone
Power shot for you my friend…
Last week I quoted Ronda while speaking to a brilliant audience (at Aaron Sansoni’s Entrepreneurs Summit) with Netflix Co-founder Mark Randolph
So to YOU my wise friend, today (or any day) should you encounter someone who wants you to shrink to please them (or to fit a so called status quo)… breathe in deep and take up all that rightful, valuable space in yourself.
Never back down on backing and investing in yourself. You were born to be you. Don’t dim your power for anyone…
Authenticity, self-respect, bravery, permission to be ALL that you are… the world not only needs that stuff like insulin…
There are also others watching you, who by proxy will learn that it’s invaluable, imperative and necessary to back who they are without shame, without shrinkage or dissolution.
Go out there and live ALL that you are…
Makes me so darn proud and overjoyed when I see someone take up space and OWN their life.
Go, you good thing, GO live out loud.
I’m cheering you fierce from the sidelines, I believe in you, make sure YOU believe in you and don’t back down…
If your light is too bright, others can be warmed and inspired by it or buy shades and sit respectfully in a back row.
Shine on my friend!
Champion yourself…
Stand up, Stand out, Shine on
Use whatever energy comes your way as fuel.
“Those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them because then you destroy yourself”
You’re not what others think of you. They’re simply painting their own projection.
Step aside of their illusion and back into your own bones.
You are who you say you are. Own yourself.
This world needs your light.
You were born to be you.
Stand up.
Stand out.
Shine on!
“I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
Live while you’re alive, right now this moment, this one and the next, these moments are your life.
Live in all your bones, don’t settle for someone else’s version of you or your life.
You came here to be you.
Live that amazing self out loud.
“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life I was a bride married to amazement. I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.
When it is over, I don’t want to wonder if I have made of my life something particular, and real. I don’t want to find myself sighing and frightened, or full of argument.
I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.”
-Mary Oliver