You’re not here to play small
Be wise and adult enough to read past the (softened) cuss word to the point of this quote…
You’re here to be you.
You’re here to bring what you bring without a dimmer switch.
Like I always say; people can buy shades and sit quietly in a back row if they can’t handle your brilliance.
Don’t dim your light, volume, passion, knowing or purpose for anyone.
If things get tough, be tougher…
If folk want to mould you into mild, walk away and rise and rise and rise.
You’re not here to play small.
Small does the world a disservice.
Live in all your bones,
live out loud,
own your life.
We need your light like we need the sun.
You’re an essential part of life.
Nobody is a nobody.
YOU ARE someone.
Someone who’s meant to be here.
Someone who makes a difference.
Someone who’s allowed.
You are enough.
I’m so glad you’re here.
Forward we go,
Dr Lynika
#liveyourlife #blogger #newblogpost
That stuff ain’t pretty
Hush to the folks who house their minds in small rooms with no light.
Those with dogged opinions and aggressive ideals… this is your cue to take a look at your own humanity and heart, instead of dishing out stale barbed wire, judgement bile.
That stuff ain’t pretty and it grows nobody, including you.
For those impacted by the shrunken ones, let me assure you not to be dismayed or discouraged if your well intentioned efforts, support or beliefs are mocked or attacked.
It’s that sadly familiar, repetitive, and often ‘learned’ behaviour for some folk to be negative and fearful in the face of someone else’s beliefs, victory or stance.
Don’t waste time or energies looking at those throwing stones from glass houses.
Your purpose and passion is a much stronger force, and it’s moving in the right direction.
Keep your eyes forward and your head high.
And as John Lydgate said…
“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.
Don’t divvy up your soul trying to please or appease all.
Keep on steering…
You were born to become YOU.
Footwear, roles or people, if they hurt you they’re not your size.
Live out loud.
You have a right to be here and you matter.
Surface success will never grow the soul
We need to value what can’t be measured in order to be in balance behind the scenes as well.
Surface success will never grow the soul,
the heart,
or home.
Don’t let anyone convince you that success comes at the sacrifice of your family or your health.
And don’t think that a carefully constructed public profile of pretending to be ‘living the dream’ is doing you any favours.
If your wellbeing behind closed doors is parched and ragged…
then you’re missing the point
and missing your life.
Take care to have balance.
You matter.
It’s not too late
Your life isn’t a practice run…
It’s right here, right now.
Each and every moment is turning into a memory.
Saturate them.
Play the leading role you were given, with all your heart and gusto.
Leave nothing to waste,
dive all the way in,
widen your beliefs to match the possibilities that call to you.
Back yourself 100%
You came here to be YOU.
Live out loud and embrace your life for the fierce, brief miracle it is.
It’s not too late.
Your future self will rise with gratitude for the irreplaceable gifts you create by living wide and deep now.
Own your life.
This world needs your light.
What are you going to do with all that dark?
Find a way to glow in it…
Why?
Because that’s what you do in the dark, you find the light…
you find the smallest speck and you grow it…
and then you exude that light,
and then you shine it everywhere so that others can find the light inside themselves,
and realise their fierce right to own it.
Shine fierce.
Anyone who wants to complain can wear shades in the back row.
Whoever wants you to play small, is too small for you.
Own it.
Learn to read them
Emotions and feelings are guideposts, important messengers.
They’re really the answers within you, every time.
They’re a built in compass that save you enormous time, money, effort and energy.
Many people try to avoid uncomfortable feelings like the plague.
They want them to go away or be ‘fixed’ but the truth is…
emotions are there for a powerful reason, and their enormous worth and value are all too often overlooked.
It’s like turning down a valuable gift that you really need…
all because you don’t like the packaging.
But the quicker you get the packaging off, the quicker you uncover the gifts and are able to use them.
When you lean into the feeling instead, and listen to it,
you become more empowered,
switched on,
and energised.
Because you find out exactly what’s going on.
Emotions will tell you where you’re depleted or weakened,
and what needs changing.
They’ll tell you if a boundary of yours has been compromised,
and what steps and decisions you need to make.
The additional bonus is you get to know yourself in ways you never knew before.
This leads to greater empowerment, clarity and groundedness.
It makes you much less likely to be tripped up and waylaid by someone else’s ideas of what you need.
It gets you in tune with your own inner compass.
It gets you moving from stuck… to momentum.
Pay attention to your feelings and lean in…
You WERE born with a compass,
a manual…
and your emotions are a big part of the instructions.
Learn to read them.
Never dim your light for anyone
Never dim your light for anyone.
Be the lighthouse that you are.
It’s light that helps others navigate dark seas.
Roll the dice a hundred and one
It’s ultimately not about losing or winning, it’s casting your roll again and again.
That’s where you’ll find yourself breathing the fullest, that’s where you find yourself living out loud.
No matter what happens, get up and roll again…
As Rumi said – “Your life has been a mad gamble. Make it more so. You have lost now a hundred times running. Roll the dice a hundred and one.”
Don’t stay in one repeat episode
These moments are your life…
Live them in new ways…
Climb out the other side of the bed each morning.
Don’t reach for your phone right away, let your soul come back all the way first.
Notice small things, kneel in the garden, the park, watch the tiny worlds living amongst the grass.
Remember how your heart beats for you each day, take deep breaths in return.
Work in a different room or corner of your home.
If you don’t work or you work for someone else, carry a stone or scrap of paper in your pocket with something valuable written on it.
It can be a quote,
a word,
a wish,
your name…
Remember your world is bigger than 4 walls and it calls to you.
Eat outside.
Help someone.
Love the miracle of being here, alive, playing yourself for a short time on this magnificent stage.
Love your character.
Write it new lines.
Remember to let it laugh, weep, dance, fall down, get up, love.
Think outside the old lines.
Don’t stay in one repeat episode.
This day isn’t a rehearsal for something ‘better’ up ahead.
Walk into new rooms, make new chapters.
Own your moments, your life is made of these.
Occupy them.
Our time here is brief.
Live it wild, w i d e, open and deep.
Trust yourself
Keep your heart and humour supple, your discernment sharp and trust your own resilience.
There’s always a way and you’re the best one for the helm.
“Love Many, Trust Few, and Always Paddle Your Own Canoe”